Dfcs in the wrong?

Posted on August 14, 2008

Be prepared for a long story…I really need advice…

Me and my husband (Mark) had been involved with dfcs before and everything went smothly and the problem was taken have being solicitous of. Mark failed the first drug test for thc and I failed for bar (I was indeed confused at this but I’ll explian in a sixtieth part of a degree). We were sent to do a drug assessment where he reffered us to take drug and alcohol classes. Then we were drug tested agian two weeks later and Mark passed but I failed agian for the same thing, bar. Our case performer was curious as to why and she sent both put drugs into tests to the lab and turns out both of mine were false positives so i really passed them. She called us that day and said she went to her superviser and they decided to close the case and aggregate we had to do was take early intervention classes because 10 weeks bucause of Mark’s failed test. We got our kids back that day and all was well.

Well on the fourth of July I went to my family’s house with both our kids and Mark worked. My sister drove me pointedly late that night and Mark was drunk with a buddy at his aparment upstairs. It was the fourth so they hung out and drank. No question. So he got himslef one last beer and came home and we all went to stratum. Well the nearest morning, at 6 am I got up to go to work. And Mark had to drive me because I only be in actual possession of my learners right now. But he was really hungover and still soaked and I didn’t feel comfortable leaving him with the kids, I had a hard time waking him up taken in the character of flow. So I called the buddy he had been drinking with and was going to ask his wife to one or the other observe the kids till my husband woke up or up to I got home. She said she couldn’t cause she had to work as well and I started to get upset (not by her) because I could get in alot of trouble calling in less than an hour before I was supposed to be there. And his aunt Monique was the breakfast manager and I didn’t want to explain to her the situation and embarass Mark in the way that I was trying to work round that which was a mistake. I should have just dealt with it and done just that.

So Brad (his buddy) decided to come into disgrace stairs and see how drunk Mark really was when I told him not to several times. What I didn’t know was that Mark and Brad had gotten in an arguement the night before about how brad was dishonest about alot of things he told Mark. Mark had caught him in a lie and was upset. So when Brad woke him up instead of asking in what state he felt or whatever, he started trade Mark irresposible and fussing at him. I tried to stop them both from argueing but they were going at it. This wole fight took place outside our forepart door with the entrance slightly open. My 8 month year old daughter was awake in her playpin watching cartoons paying no attention to what was going on surface and my son was alembic sleeping. Mark and Brad were just argueing and there was no actual fight. Yes, there were threats but no fight. At one point I pointed my finger in Marks face and told him to go lay down and he pushed my hand away. (I don’privately know about you but I don’t consider that domestic violence).

Anyway, united of the niegbors called the police and when the police magistrate. The officer came into the house. The door was opened and he just walked in. The room was messy becuse niether upon the body of us was home the clean up from the morning before. There were clothes on the floor and toys and diapers (clean diapers by the way) No refuse or anything dangerous. Well, the cop seemed to be of opinion it was awful and saw the one beer mark brought home on the prevail over empty a little ways begone from my sons depression whom was asleep. He pray for Mark to step outside and talked with him. Mark ask that he please not call dfcs because they were in trouble before. The officer then ask Mark to take a breath test. The ordeal meanly registered .099/. He then ask to take pictures. We didn’t mind because we didn’t have anything to hide. Well Mark got upset about this and said something about just getting our kids back. This seemed to set the cop against and he walked outside to call. Apparently brad told the cop he was abusing me which was not true. I told him he didn’t hurt me or anything but he still filed a report for simple battery and told me I could go down and get a warrent and everything. ( What for pointing my finger and having it pushed away. If a fly gets in your face don’t you swat at it automatically.

So then the Dfcs worker on call arrives and so does Marks aunt. (I called her when I realized dfcs was coming and told her everything.) We certain that we would send the kids to Monique’s as part of the safty map and as we were acquirement the kids things together the dfcs worker herself said that our order of importance wasn’t that bad it just looked like we had kids. But because of the beer be able to and the go to war suffer slip the dogs of war the kids had to go to Moniques.

Well a few days went by and no one contacted us and Monique ended up demanding that someone tell us something. She was tossed around different peaple for ten days after the incident. We finally found our example worker Yalonda who didn’t even know she had the case and found it in her box. So she came out and did a close visit with Monique and talked to Mark in continuance the phone and told him that we didn’t follow through with our last situation plan and Mark was not supposed to be drinking at whole. On the phone she told Mark specifically that she would call us the following week. She never did and two weeks went through and we agian started craft up there over and over leaving messages and again couldn’t in touch with her.

We started looking up the laws and rules in this situation and foud not at fireside the Yalonda had thirty days to have a case plot made and signed by the judge. on the thirty first day I called her enumerate once agin and lastly she answered. I mentioned that had been over thirty days and she hadn’t done anything but the one visit to Moniques and she imediatly made an appointment for the following friday. I had to procure off work any sixty minutes early and begone back in that night and Mark called and said he’d be an hour recently in order to go to this appointment.

At the appointment Yalonda was really rude and acted like we were wasting her time. She pulled the statment that the on call inflection worker made and season that case performer was powerful us that the place wasn’t bad and that it just looked like we had kids, apparently she wrote that the place was disgusting and in that place were dishes everywhere with fly breeding in them and the place was covered in beer cans witch was COMPLETELY untrue. The cop even took pictures of the place. So we could prove that. Also she said that the case from before wasn’face to face closed and we restrain had things to do. I explained earlier exactly what happened the first time. Then she told us we had to go take a drug test but we explianed that we had to work and would do it first thing in the morning. She said if that were the case then we had to have a hair follicle test done and we before-mentioned no problem. Then she said that she would do our appointments in the mornings because she knew the resturuant we worked at didn’t have existence sufficient breakfast and she was tired of working around our schedule (remember, this is the first arrangement.). But we do get there in good time, I have to be in at 10 and Mark sometimes goes in at 8. I didn’t tell her this and another mistake I made, because I was afriad of argueing by her after she’s already being very uncouth.

So the next morning I had to be in at 10 and I waited for the woman to advance out and give the test. Yalonda said it would be early in the morning so i was thinking 7 or 8. When it was time for the sake of me to go to be in action, I called Yalonda and told her and she got very tip over and said that she would regular send them to my work. I said ok because I didn’t want her to think I was lying. then she hung up on me without another word. Real proffesional.

The parent aid from the first predicament called and said she would not come by dint of. work to work out the test but would have being by the agency of on sat at 2. She was running late so I called aunt Monique. She told Monique she was running late but would be their shortley. She never showed up. Another lady showed a few minutes after toni said she would do the test. She gave us a 9 panel urine test and a
hair folicle test. I past the urine test but Mark failed for Marijuana.

We be under the necessity not recieved the hair folicle test results yet. I am sure I resolution pass but it seems that Mark will not. He is not a mix by drugs user. He was at his friends and made the mistate of apothegm yes when he should have said no. I guess with all the stress he surcame to it. He is young and he made a mistake.

So now we have to take drug and alcohol casses, at our expense, even though I’ve passed every drug test. And we own to take domestic violence classes because Mark pushed my hand from home. And it’s looking like it’s going to be months or a year before this is all over with.

Questions

Since I was the one not drinking and trying to determine an issue someone to watch my kids who wasn’t. Which is wherefore this happened despite what cause couldn’t I have gone by Monique and the kids.

Second
Why do I have to take drug and Alcohol classes if I don’t use drugs or drink.

How can the report say our place of entertainment had magets and all these bottles of beers if it did not and the pictures the officer took put to the test this.

How long does the case worker have to juxtaposition you and do home studies, case plans and all that after they have removeed the kids from my home.

Why do I have to take domestic violance classes at the time all I was trying to do is get mark to listen and stop arguing with the neiber.

This all happened because instead of calling into work I tried to do the right body and make sure my children were safe by not taking a chance and leaving them with my save whom had been drinking even notwithstanding that that was not very much.

I havn’t done anything but the best I could. I should have called in. Asking the neighbor was a mistake I guess. But, I was just trying to do the most excellent thing for my kids.

Someone choose let me know how long they can maintain my children from living with me since my husband failed the urine standard for traces of marajauna.

Please help.

Thank you

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